<p><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"> 第一步:停下来。</span><br/><br/><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"> 当我们要做一件重要的工作之前,是不是先得把其他的事情停止下来?你不可能一边演算</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E4%B9%A0%E9%A2%98&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">习题</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">一边</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E7%9C%8B%E7%94%B5%E8%A7%86&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">看电视</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">,也不可能在</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E4%B8%8E%E4%BA%BA&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">与人</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">聊天的同时写一份</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E9%87%8D%E8%A6%81%E6%96%87%E4%BB%B6&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">重要文件</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">。那么听孩子说话也是同样的</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E9%81%93%E7%90%86&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">道理</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">。</span><br/><br/><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"> 全神贯注听孩子说话,不仅是尊重孩子的</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E6%80%81%E5%BA%A6&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">态度</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">,同时也能为老师</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E7%88%B6%E6%AF%8D%E4%B8%8E%E5%AD%A9%E5%AD%90&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">与孩子</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">的沟通营造一个良好的氛围。老师应该坐下来,用眼睛注视着孩子,微笑着静静听孩子倾诉,老师作为倾听者所给予孩子的关注、尊重和时间,是对孩子最有效的帮助。另外,在倾听这一刻,老师的</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E5%BF%83%E7%90%86&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">心理</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">应该是</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E4%B8%80%E5%BC%A0%E7%99%BD%E7%BA%B8&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">一张白纸</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">,对孩子所说的东西不妨先全盘接受,而不是急着用自己的</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E6%83%B3%E6%B3%95&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">想法</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">加以评判和批驳。</span><br/><br/><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"> 孩子最令人惊异也最让人羡慕的地方就是他们是全新的,他们的头脑里总是充满着那样新鲜的想法、</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E8%A7%82%E5%BF%B5&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">观念</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">和</span><a href="http://www.so.com/s?q=%E6%83%85%E7%BB%AA&ie=utf-8&src=internal_wenda_recommend_textn" target="_blank" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; color: rgb(0, 99, 200); outline: 0px; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">情绪</a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: "Microsoft Yahei", arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">,这些东西对成年人来说可能已经非常陌生了。"停下来"或许孩子将会给你带来另外一种美感。</span></p>